There are many essays and videos about how to have threesome. They would say that you have to be considerate and generous. You need to set boundaries. You have to make sure everyone is on the same page. You should respect other people's boundaries. You should never cross the line. From my perspective, all of these are bullshit! They violated the number one and the most significant rule of threesome: It has to be spontaneous.
Why threesome has to be spontaneous? Because the best experience of threesome hookup must happen naturally, not by planned. Today, we have read and watched so many articles and tutorials teaching you how to find and have a threesome. They say that you can look for threesome partners through online hookup apps. There are many swinger couples and singles there. They say that you can go to bars and just ask them. They say that you should communicate with your partner about how to have threesome dating. They say that you should talk and discuss the details beforehand. However, I think they are lying.
Imagine when you are working hard in your office. Your wife is thinking about how to turn you on. Maybe she would set up a trap of you accidentally undress her and find her sexy underwear and you may be turned on by it. Imagine a girl likes you and she is planning on a show to show her advantages that may appear you, such as big boobs, nice butts. You may find it is rather hot or cute, but deep down in your heart, you know it is fake and it is all planned. The reason you are willing to buy it is because you know spontaneity is too few to see. Actually, if there is, you would rather choose the spontaneous one, right?
The case is the same for threesome. If you are setting rules for threesome, isn't it sound less fun? If you are planning for it, isn't it sound less romantic? There is a situation for you. A couple and a single were drinking and talking. They find they are attracted to each other. They want to kiss each other. So they just do it. They can do it in any ways they want to. There is no rule. No beforehand talking. The couple is not in a relationship. The three are in a relationship. They are a whole. They are not separated to a couple and a single. Imagine this situation. Wouldn't it be a lot dreamier and wonderful?
If you say that you would be jealous, then you can conclude that you are not a swinger or you are not swing enough to have threesome. If you say that there are certain things you feel uncomfortable about, then you don't have to worry about it. Other people would notice it when you are in bed together. There is no need to elaborate it before. You can just have fun and be yourself.